Each time a new year comes, I’m quick to think about what I want to accomplish in the upcoming year. While I think looking ahead and setting goals is a great practice, I wanted to do something a little different this year. I wanted to make New Year’s resolutions and base these resolutions on what I learned in 2017. I wanted to take the time to look back on this past year, the year that forever changed me, the year that I became a mom.
As I reflect on this past year, I feel like I grew as a person more so than any other year of my life. There have been so many life lessons that motherhood has taught me and so many ways that motherhood has changed my outlook on life. So, instead of jumping right into what I want to accomplish this year, I want to think about the life lessons 2017 taught me and how I’m resolving to keep those top of mind in 2018.
This year was a year of contradictions. It was the fastest year of my life, while simultaneously being the slowest. The most rewarding, but also the most challenging. It was the year I felt most confident in myself, while also feeling the most vulnerable. The year I said goodbye to who I thought I was but also became who I wanted to be. There were times when I had more patience then I thought possible, and other times when my temper was like a short fuse. It was my first year as a mother. Here’s what my new role taught me…
Give myself more grace
Before having Andrew, I almost always checked off everything on my daily to do list. I was and still am a bit of a perfectionist. Whether that to do list included cleaning the house, folding and putting away the laundry, writing a daily blog post, working out, buying a birthday gift for a friend, or cooking dinner, I rarely left anything undone. My life was structured and organized and that’s how I liked it.
Well, for anyone reading who isn’t a mom, let me just tell you that motherhood quickly makes you realize that you simply can’t do it all and your to do list will never be done. It took me awhile to realize this and I honestly haven’t fully accepted it but I have gotten better. And in the new year, I resolve to give myself more grace. I plan to do this by prioritizing what’s important to me daily – spending quality time with Andrew and my husband, Patrick, working out, eating healthy, and maintaining my blog (which doesn’t necessarily mean posting every single day).
Life (typically) doesn’t go according to your plan, but God has a plan – trust in it!
Andrew came five weeks early. That was not part of my plan. I was scared and I thought I wasn’t prepared. We didn’t have a car seat, his bed setup, or his clothes washed. However, shortly after the moment I truly realized Andrew was coming 5 weeks early whether we were ready or not, I decided to surrender to God’s plan. There was nothing else I could do. I had to trust that God’s plan was better than ours. I thank God every day that Andrew was and is so healthy even though he was five weeks early. And guess what else, we got to meet our son five weeks early! Sometimes it’s hard to remember that God’s plan is better than ours but when I reflect on my life, I’m consistently reminded that it is so much better than any plan that I could ever come up with.
Don’t give up on your dreams
There are a number of times since becoming a mom that I kick myself for waiting until after having Andrew to pursue this blog so passionately. I had so much more time before I became a mom. Now, I’m frantically writing from the moment I put him down to bed. There are days when I question if I’m spending too much energy and giving up too much sleep in the pursuit of maintaining this space.
But then I realize, that my increased drive to pursue this passion is because of Andrew. I want to teach him to relentlessly pursue your dreams whatever they are and the best way I can think to do that is by pursuing mine. My own mom demonstrated this as she raised three daughters and pursued her dream of renovating houses. She now has her own successful business, Stacy Jacobi Home, and has helped so many people create their dream homes.
Live in the moment
I talked a lot about living in the moment in this Motherhood Monday post a few months ago, but I constantly have to remind myself to do this. As a driven, perfectionist (see resolution one), I am always wanting to check things off and move on to the next best thing. However, seeing how quickly Andrew is growing and changing daily, I don’t want to wish or rush any moment. I know my time is precious with him so I want to enjoy every high and low and truly live in the moment in 2018.
Stop the comparison game
Social media makes it so easy to compare ourselves to others. And when you become a mom, it’s one more aspect that you can compare yourself on. Becoming a mom and now pursuing this dream of creating a fashion blog, I have caught myself in the comparison game more times than I’d like to admit. This will be one of the hardest resolutions for me to uphold but I’m resolving to do better. I’ve found that uplifting others helps cut back on the time I can spend playing the comparison game so I’m resolving to add more of this to my life in 2018.
Never forget the power of prayer
There are so many times during the challenges of early motherhood that I can recall praying to God for help, for patience, for wisdom, for peace, for sleep! I want to continue turning to God in the challenging moments. However, this year, I want to do better about turning to him in the every day moments too.
The Mom Corner
At the end of Motherhood Monday posts from here on out, I plan to share an update on Andrew and what baby or mom products/apps/books/toys that we’re currently using and loving. Hopefully, this will serve as a helpful resource for any moms to be, new moms, or moms with little ones around the same age!
Andrew’s age: 27 weeks (6 months)
Favorite toy: Sophie the Giraffe
Introduced real food this week. Started with avocados. Currently using the Bumbo seat with play tray until we buy a high chair. Loving this organic baby food book and bought this freezer tray to store the food I make.